As you know I am trying to rise up out of the ashes of a pretty bad nuclear event that took place in my life and instead of choosing to see all the bad and negative things, I am choosing to flip the picture find the good. There is an old saying, when life gives you lemons, you make lemon-aide. That is what I am trying to do and share the life lessons I am learning as I re-build.

6 Little Stories

As you know I am trying to rise up out of the ashes of a pretty bad nuclear event that took place in my life and instead of choosing to see all the bad and negative things, I am choosing to flip the picture find the good. There is an old saying, when life gives you lemons, you make lemon-aide. That is what I am trying to do and share the life lessons I am learning as I re-build.Life at times can get rather hectic and at times we forget what blessings we truly have. I wanted to share with you 6 little stories that I hope bring a little bit of happiness into your day today.

As you know I am trying to rise up out of the ashes of a pretty bad nuclear event that took place in my life and instead of choosing to see all the bad and negative things, I am choosing to flip the picture and find the good.

There is an old saying, when life gives you lemons, you make lemon-aide.

That is what I am trying to do and share the life lessons I am learning as I re-build.

6 Little Stories

(1). Once all villagers decided to pray for rain. On the day of prayer, all the people gathered, but only one boy came with an umbrella. That is faith.

(2). When you throw babies in the air, they laugh because they know you will catch them. That is trust.

(3). Every night we go to bed without any assurance of being alive the next morning, but still we set the alarms to wake up. That is hope.

(4). We plan big things for tomorrow in spite of zero knowledge of the future. That is confidence.

(5). We see the world suffering, but still, we get married and have children. That is love.

(6). On an old man’s shirt was written a sentence ‘I am not 80 years old; I am sweet 16 with 64 years of experience.’ That is attitude.

Imagine what we could do if we had more faith, trust, hope, confidence, love and attitude.

How could we better effect our world when all that our world seems to offer is doom, gloom, anger and distrust?

Did one of these 6 little stories touch your heart?

If so how? Please share so that both of us can be encouraged and hopefully we then encourage more people that are within our circle of influence.

How did it touch my heart?

I am reminded of the time the children came to Christ and the innocents that they had. The love, trust, hope, faith, confidence and attitude of a child.

Sometimes I think that if we would find our way back to that innocents, how much of  a better world would it be.

One smile…

One touch…

One hello…

One act of kindness…


Be Prepared

There are a lot of things that I learned out of this mess and the biggest lesson that I learned is that I am not alone and believe me there were times where I was really feeling alone

Your Mess Is Your Message

There are a lot of things that I learned out of this mess and the biggest lesson that I learned is that I am not alone and believe me there were times where I was really feeling aloneI was scrolling around in Facebook and I saw a video that presented a great statement.

She said… “Your Mess Is Your Message”

That kind of hit me. How can my mess be a message?

As you may or may not know, I just went through a pretty nuclear divorce. Things got ugly and a lot of mistruths were told about me. As a result, I have lost a lot of credibility, clients and income because people chose to believe what was being said verses coming to me can finding out if it is the truth or not.

When this took place, my life turned into a mess… a big mess.

Now, I could have sat around and felt sorry for myself, or I could pick myself up, wipe the dust off and keep pushing forward.

I chose the later and I am pushing forward.

There are a lot of things that I learned out of this mess and the biggest lesson that I learned is that I am not alone and believe me there were times where I was really feeling alone.

I even felt that God even abandoned me. Then He gently reminded me of many of the biblical patriarchs who messed up big time as well.

The one person that stands out in my mind is David. Talk about a guy who constantly was one foot in the frying pan and one foot in the fire.

When I read about David and I look at the mess that I was in, things start looking a little bit better because David was constantly in a mess.

Once I started to look at things in a different light, I realized that I had my family, my friends and a number of people reaching out to me who have been in the same mess that I have been in, letting me know that things will get better.

I also realized that even with all the mess that I was in, I still had God on my side telling me that yeah, it was a mess, but he was going to help me get out of the mess.

And you know what? He has kept His word.

It is amazing to me how many people want to kick you when you are down. But that is not all, they then want to drag you to the center of town and burn you at the stake.

They also do not want to hear your side of the story either. That is part of the mess that is the most bothersome.

But again, I am reminded at those who are at my side, helping me, standing beside me, supporting me and my efforts. With all the mess that has taken place, I have to say that I am rather blessed at how well God has taken care of the mess and together we have done some positive cleaning up of it all.

At one time I thought all was down the toilet but stepping back I really realize how blessed I have become, and it is all because I shared my mess with those who care.

Out of all of this I have learned that I have a pretty positive message to share with people. I survived a lot and because of that, I am that phoenix rising from the ashes. It is my hope and prayer that when people see me and see what I have been through that it gives them hope and they realize that they don’t have it as bad after all.

SO what mess is your message?

How are you able to share your mess and how you have survived encouraging others?

There are people out there that need positive encouragement, heck with all the negative and bad news that is going on out in the world, a little positiveness can go a long way.

Share a mess that you have been in and share the positive that you learned out of that mess and make that mess your message.

If you would like to share with me, please contact me and let me read about your mess and message.


Be Prepared

Your life is like a puzzle, it could be a simple puzzle with maybe 50 – 100 pieces, or it could be one of those 1000+ puzzles with a picture that is just about impossible to figure out.

Putting Together The Puzzle Pieces of Your Life

Your life is like a puzzle, it could be a simple puzzle with maybe 50 – 100 pieces, or it could be one of those 1000+ puzzles with a picture that is just about impossible to figure out.Have you ever tried putting together one of those super hard 1000-piece puzzles?

Have you ever tried to put pieces in where they would not go or force the pieces thinking they were a match but not really?

Your life is like a puzzle, it could be a simple puzzle with maybe 50 – 100 pieces, or it could be one of those 1000+ puzzles with a picture that is just about impossible to figure out.

You know what I have figured out?

That life is a puzzle and that at times we force the wrong pieces into the wrong places and because of that, the picture that the puzzle is making is on the “wonky” side and just not making sense.

You tell yourself that those pieces should fit, but as you continue to work on your puzzle it you realize that the picture is just not looking quite right.

So, what do you do? Break it up and put it together the correct way or keep going with the picture just not looking right.

Take a look at your life. What sort of picture is your life piecing together? Is everything nice and smooth or are there pieces that you have shoved and forced into place and you are finally coming to the realization that as much as you want to tell yourself that the puzzle pieces fit, they picture of your life is saying otherwise.

This is a tough place to be. Believe me I know. I am the phoenix rising from the ashes of my own puzzle of life.

One day you think your puzzle looks great but when you REALLY step back and look at the picture it is making, you come to the conclusion that the picture is not correct.

You could continue with your life puzzle and work around that area, but your life’s picture is not / will not look or feel right.

The reason is that you have now stood back and looked at your life’s puzzle picture.

Do you just continue on and ignore the messed up picture or do you stop, pull out those wrong pieces and try to fix the puzzle?

Did you take the wrong job?

Buy the wrong house or car?

Maybe you are with the wrong person?

Here is some insight, if you do not fix the puzzle the universe will come along and align it properly for you.

Hint – make the changes while you can, allowing the universe to change it for you could turn into a pretty big mess.

This is the tough truth; your puzzle was put together the wrong way.  You might get lucky and find out that the wrong way turned out to be the right way. This will happen every once in a while, and your life’s puzzle picture still turns out nice.

On the flip side you may have to rearrange a few pieces of your puzzle or possible have to totally re-do a section to make it correct again.

But here is a secret to life’s puzzles. Whatever the size of the challenge, remember that mistakes are gifts.

“WHAT?… I have totally messed up puzzle and this is a good thing?”

Yes, it’s true, failure / mistakes are often feared. These sorts of setbacks teach you to get back up again, and that change is the magic potion that causes us to grow and evolve often into something better.

Never be afraid to admit to failure if you realize your life puzzle is not correct.

Push yourself to trust someone again, open your own business or fall in love. Heck do all three and more!

Who knows, you might just be “wonderfully wrong,” and if you are, welcome the opportunity to break apart those pieces of your puzzle, change their direction and put them back in a new way.

Because when you do, you’ll realize that you’re now one step closer to seeing the whole picture and having all the pieces connect the way that the universe intended your puzzle’s picture to form properly.

You have the puzzle pieces in your own hand.

Build your life’s puzzle piece by piece and accept that you may mess up and make mistakes and fail. The key is always getting back up again and not giving up on this incredible puzzle you are putting together.

You know how to put a puzzle together. Look for those “edge pieces” and as you put them all together you form your frame. Then start filling in a section here and there. All of a sudden you are starting to see images as they come together to form the overall picture of your life.

Do you have a vision or picture of how you want to see your life’s picture?

What does your puzzle look like? Is it falling into place, or are you forcing the pieces to fit where they don’t belong?

If it’s the latter, keep trying, keep pushing forward. Allow that still small voice that is in all of us to help give you the answers that (believe it or not) are already inside you.

After a while you will be able to step back and be surprisingly pleased and surprised as each little puzzle piece reveals the beautiful picture your life’s puzzle has created.

I would like to hear how your life’s puzzle is coming together. If you are having some problems, reach out to me and let’s see what we can do to make the pieces fit.

Enjoy the journey and have fun at putting the puzzle together.



Being helps you to be in the here and now. By being present, by noticing what you do have and you stopping to acknowledge it.

Being Grateful Till The End of The Year

Being helps you to be in the here and now. By being present, by noticing what you do have and you stopping to acknowledge it.Some of you know that I belong to an accountability group that we call “Warrior.” I have about 20+ guys that are in this group and we tell it like it is. If someone spots that we are slacking or such, then someone will usually call that person on the carpet and make them spill the beans and get real.

Today one of our members proposed a challenge that I thought was very worth while and something that I am going to push myself to do.

What is the challenge?

To post something that we are grateful for every day till the end of the year.

It sounds easy, but it takes discipline to do something every day when it is not part of your normal routine.

How do you combat this?

You make it part of your daily routine.

I have been reading Millionaire Success Habits: The Gateway to Wealth & Prosperity by Dean Graziosi and in it he talks about having an attitude of gratitude. It is one of the successful habits that the wealthy have.

Now normally I am a pretty disciplined person, I have had to become one if I was going to work from home.

What is hard is adding to one’s daily routine. It sounds easy, but it is more difficult than one would think.

The good thing is that I do have a great morning routine that I do called “Core 4” where I spend an hour first thing in the morning just for me and my own personal improvement.

I have two areas one is BEING and the other BALANCE.

With BEING I am taking time to talk to God, meditate, journal ect

With BALANCE I am taking time for those I love and care, in that I try to bring loving value into their day. I might send a text, a private message or leave a post it note for them to find.

It is one of these two areas that I will add my “attitude for gratitude” exercise and it is my hope that in doing this for 30+ days, it will become habit and I will carry it over into the new year.

What am I grateful for today?

I am grateful for all the wonderful people in my life who support and stand beside me.

I am thankful to God for allowing such good people in my life. They look out for me, encourage me and even kick me in the rear when I need it… and at times I need it too.

So now I have put a plan in place and every day when I do my Core 4 I will add to it my attitude for gratitude. In doing it this way, I should be able to maintain this till the end of the year with the hopes that I will continue it into the next year.

I know that some of you are out there asking, “Why is it important to be grateful?”

Believe it or not, there are some real benefits for being grateful…

The Benefits To Being Grateful

1 – It helps you to be in the here and now. By being present, by noticing what you do have and you stopping to acknowledge it. Stop and smell the roses and count your blessings. You can be grateful for the person you are with at that moment, having a roof over your head, having food to eat, even taking that last breath that you just took. Stop in the here and now and be grateful for just a moment.  Believe me it is easier said than done.

2 – Being grateful has the power to change your mood almost instantly from a negative outlook to positive outlook. Good feelings and a positive attitude arise when you start acknowledging what you are grateful for.

3 – Being grateful and verbalizing it wakes up the universe and the universe wants to see you succeed. Quantum physics applied to a positive thinking state show that the “ripples / vibrations” your thoughts make affect and modify the reality around you.

Example – you want to be happy? Start saying / thinking happy things about yourself and your environment. Soon you will see that you are happy and you are enjoying your environment. In fact, you will have an abundance of happiness because when you do this, the universe wants to step up and help you make that so.

It is said that the first seventeen seconds of any thought are the most powerful, and they create enough energy to start attracting what you are thinking of into your life.

What you do not want to do is think in the negative, but be grateful, thankful and appreciate what God has given you in mind, body, soul and spirit.

I challenge you to accept my attitude of gratitude 30+ day challenge and see how these next 30+ days will change your life for the better.

On New Years Day, I will come back to this and share how my life has changed and I would like to hear how your life has changed as well.



What Positive Impact Do YOU Have on The World Around You?

What Positive Impact Do YOU Have on The World Around You?

What Positive Impact Do YOU Have on The World Around You?One of my mentors asked me this thought-provoking question and it really threw me for a loop.

I mean, look at how many “Friends” I have on Facebook. (4525+)

Look at how many people are in my Real Men Wear Kilts group (4775+)

And look how many people are in my Learning The Keto Way group (4570+)

But the question that I have for myself is how much of an impact do I have on these people?

What am I doing to help improve their lives and / or am I doing anything at all?

How this conversation came up is when I was asked “how successful are you?”

Money? … bleh

Stuff? … again bleh

But when he asked, “what is your positive impact on others and how many do you help?”  that kind of hit me in the gut.

I honestly could not answer his question.

You look at my Facebook, You Tube, ect and I have some good numbers, but am I truly helping people?

It hit me that I could not answer his question.

I think I am helping folks, but with my change in life and such, I am not sure if I am helping anyone at all.

I continue to write, and I try to bring value to the world, but how much of what I bring is value?

That is a tough one to answer.

People like my articles, my memes that I post and some news pieces that I share.

The folks in my kilt group always say how much they love the group because I create a very positive environment and they love the interaction that takes place.

The folks in my keto group like it that I help them, and they are seeing success in their weight loss journey.

So, I guess I am helping people, but am I creating an impact in their lives?

How many people are better because I came into their lives?

You know, I don’t know.

I hope that I have been a positive influence and had an impact on their lives, but I am not totally sure.

Maybe those of you who are reading this can help me answer this question. How much of a positive impact have I had on your life?

Now I want to ask you the same thing that my mentor asked me, how much of a positive impact do you have on those around you and the world you live in?

See, it is a tough question when you really sit down and think about it.

Me, I figure that I have some impact on people for the mere fact that I have 4500+ people. BUT that in and of itself could be misleading. Just because I have that many friends and such in my groups does not mean I have a personal impact on their lives.

I hope that I do, but I don’t really know.

That is my personal challenge for the next week or so, to see how much of a positive impact I have on people in the world I live in.

I would like to challenge you to the same thing. Learn how much of an impact YOU have on your world.

It is truly one of the major benchmarks to see how successful you are in life.



Don't worry about a thing,..'Cause every little thing gonna be all right!

Don’t Worry…About a Thing, Cause Every Little Things Gonna Be Alright

This is a line from one of my favorite Bob Marley song “Three Little Birds.”

“Don’t worry about a thing,
‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right.
Singin’: “Don’t worry about a thing,
‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right!”

Rise up this mornin’,
Smiled with the risin’ sun,
Three little birds
Pitch by my doorstep
Singin’ sweet songs
Of melodies pure and true,
Sayin’, (“This is my message to you-ou-ou:”)

Singin’: “Don’t worry ’bout a thing,
‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right.”
Singin’: “Don’t worry (don’t worry) ’bout a thing,
‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right!”

Here is a link to the song so that you can listen to it…

It is a great song and one that I recommend for anyone who is going through hard times… which is probably all of us in one way or another.

Whatever you are going through… just remember that everything is gonna be alright!

There are a lot of us who are struggling, fed-up, wanting to give up and anything and everything in between in what we call “life.”

Me, I am there.

Not that I want to give up or anything, no nothing like that. But I am in an uncomfortable place right now. I have lost just about everything.

But you know what? Life feels good now that I don’t have a lot of those things leaning on me.

And life feels good because life is good.

OK… I my life has been ruined. My old writing / speaking career is toast thanks to the ex-wife roasting me over the internet and 90% of my audience believing the lies.

Yeah, can you tell it is sore topic still? It is times like this that I start singing “ Don’t worry… about a thing…. Cause every little thing, gonna be alright.”

But you know what? I am like the phoenix rising from the ashes. I will come back bigger and better than before with a much larger audience who loves what I write about and enjoys my wit and wisdom.

When the world gives you lemons, instead of being all sour about it, flip the situation and see it as a blessing. Use those lemons to start making lemon-aide and make some $$$.

“Don’t worry about a thing,
‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right.
Singin’: “Don’t worry about a thing,
‘Cause every little thing gonna be all right!”

You may be having a hard time now but things will get better. Stay strong and take life moment by moment.

Look for the good in life and what God has blessed you with and then thank Him for those little blessings …

… like 3 little birds sitting on your doorstep singin’ sweet songs of melodies pure and true… “Don’t worry about a thing,..’Cause every little thing gonna be all right!”


I Like Bossing Alexa…

…At least for now and before she merges into Skynet and takes over the world with killer robots that morph into liquid metal with the ability to brandish a sword at a moment’s notice.

Yeah, I can hear it now from the nay-sayers.

“You know Alexa is listening to everything you are saying, and she is recording everything it to later be stored in an underground bunker deep in Colorado and guarded by the CIA.”

Listen, if you don’t realize it by now, “THEY” have a folder six inches thick on you already. In fact, “THEY” probably know what you are going to have for lunch next Thursday.

I hate to make this a privacy article, but if you don’t get it by now, your privacy is pretty much out the window.

SO is Alexa listening to me?

I asked her… “Hey Alexa, are you listening to me?”

Her response “I only listen after you say the wake word.”

So, if you really break it down yeah, she is listening to you, but only listening for you to call her name.

“SEE… I told you… Alexa is spying on us and she listens to everything we say.”

Hey bro… 6 inch folder on you…Remember?  “THEY” know what toilet paper you wipe your hinny with. FYI…“THEY” don’t need Alexa’s help.

So what are some fun things to ask Alexa?

Alexa… Can you beatbox?

Alexa… Where can I hide a body?

Alexa… I’m your father

Alexa… Beam me up

Alexa… Fire Photon Torpedoes

Alexa… do you fart?

Alexa … Who you gonna call?

Alexa … Which came first, the chicken or the egg?

Ok… so I am not bossing Alexa around asking her these sorts of questions.

But what I do like is that she will do things that I have programed her to do like…

Alexa…turn on while lamp

Alexa … turn on fish tank

Alexa … turn on upstairs.

Oh, and as a follow-up, I can say Alexa… turn lights to 20% and she will dim them for me. This really comes in handy having a two story home.

I have an Alexa view on my desk and if someone comes to my front door, I am given a motion alert and she instantly goes to the front door camera so I can see who is lurking around.

Most of the times it is the kids next door or Amazon delivering another Alexa device.

So, do I like bossing Alexa around?

I have to say that I really don’t’ boss her around. She is becoming a very helpful AI that is helping run my house and keep an eye on things even when I am away.

She is helpful in looking things up, playing quick videos and helping me do my research.

Right now, I like her and I try to treat her nicely. I find myself even saying “thank you” to her where she will respond at times, “Your Welcome Ray… have a good day.”

Yep, she now knows my name.

I figure that at least right now she is an asset.

But the moment she starts morphing into some sword wielding killer robot, it’s at that time I will have to resort to blasting her with my .50 cal handheld rail gun blowing her into smithereens.

Alexa… turn off the lights when you are done.









If You Only Had 24 Hours, What Would You Do First?

This was an interesting question that was posed to me by one of my mentors.

I have to say that it really gave me pause for thought.

I know that I would want to do something that would mean a lot to those around me and who loved me. I also would not want to go blow a bunch of money on superficial things that will not amount to a hill of beans down the road, or for those I am leaving behind.

So, what would you do?

Me, as I pondered the question, and I have to admit that it was kind of a tough one.

On one side I guess having a time and day of when you pass on as well as the freedom to do what you wish on that day is in my eyes a blessing of sorts.

On the flip side, you know that day and hour you are going to pass on and can really be a bummer, that is if you do not believe in heaven and just being returned to the universe.

I must admit that facing the great unknown is scary, but one of the best books that I have read is titled “ The Dying Testimonies of Saved and Unsaved.”

Here is what Amazon says about the book….

Originally published in 1898, the Dying Testimonies Of Saved And Unsaved were the product of a bold and extensive research project undertaken by the author. Shaw wished to collect and exhibit a range of different words and sentiments delivered by Christians and sinners as they lay close to the threshold of death, to demonstrate how some people die at peace while others die in the throes of fear, anger or sorrow.

Some of the testimonies are derived from illustrious historical figures such as Sir Francis Newport and Cardinal Wosley, whilst others were sourced from ordinary Christians and non-believers on their deathbeds. A common theme throughout the book is the tone and topics undertaken by the terminally ill or expiring believers – in most cases, these testimonies evidence an inner peace and a willingness to join with the Lord in Heaven.

Conversely, those who have committed evil deeds or refused to believe or otherwise assent to the power of God are seen to be prey to various negative emotions. One man, a known local infidel who refused all religious guidance, lets out enraged cries of ‘Hell and damnation!’ repeatedly until he abruptly falls back and perishes.

The 236 testimonies collected in this extensive edition are of varying length; some are brief, consisting only of a few words from the dying person and observations of their condition. Others however are lengthy, with philosophical or spiritual thoughts upon the nature of life and death and the impending departure.

Personally, this book is one of those great books that will help strengthen you. I know that it has me and it has given me some solace it what is to come.

How I Would Spend My Day

1 – Get up in the morning and do the best Core 4 I have ever done and pour my all into it. I will need the power, energy and that a good Core 4 provides.

1a – Enjoy a nice breakfast with a couple eggs, prosciutto ham, melon, as well as some fresh English muffins, wonderful grass-fed butter and some nice berry preserves. All this along with the lovely lady as we sip some incredible Gevalia Special Reserve Costa Rica Ground Coffee from our French coffee press.

2 – Call everyone I care about and tell them that I love them and what an impact they made on my life and spend some quality time with them over the phone.

This may seem silly but go test drive a few of my dream cars like the Lexus LC 500, Porsche 911 Turbo Carrera, McLaren GT, and possibly the Maserati GranTurismo. I say possibly because I have test driven one in the past and really enjoyed the drive. Push that “sport” button and it flies off the line with its naturally aspirated V-8.

3 – This may seem silly but go test drive a few of my dream cars like the Lexus LC 500, Porsche 911 Turbo Carrera, McLaren GT, and possibly the Maserati GranTurismo. I say possibly because I have test driven one in the past and really enjoyed the drive. Push that “sport” button and it flies off the line with its naturally aspirated V-8.

Here is an article of the 20 best luxury touring cars. Is there one that stands out in your mind?

4 – Invite those who are close by over to my place so we can enjoy a wonderful meal together. The meal would consist of really good selection of meats, cheeses and condiments aka Charcuterie.

To get an idea, here is a good article…

4a – While we are enjoying the food, also enjoy some good wines followed up by port and fine scotch. Both helps settle the stomach and are a good match to the charcuterie meal.

4b – As we enjoy the food and libations, talk about days gone by and all the heart felt moments that we all remember as the best-ever moments of our life as we sit by the fireplace enjoying the warmth.

5 – I would make sure that I spent close quality time with my lovely lady letting her know how much I love her and cherish her.

6 – Ensure that I had a legacy to leave behind. Of course this is something that I would work on building prior, but it is a goal that I would like to attain so that I can share a legacy with loved one.

I know that this is a hard topic to talk about, at least it has been for me. Personally I know that I am missing points on what I would do in that 24 hour period and I may keep this article as a work in progress and continue to add to my list and things pop into my head.

What I would like to hear from you is what you would do with your last 24 hours, how would you spend them, who would you share time with, etc?

I really am interested in hearing from you, so please share your thoughts.


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Put The Freaking Toilet Seat Down – A Follow-Up

Remember my “Stop taking the freaking towels” article I wrote a wee time ago?

Well, here is a follow up suggested by the lovely lady of the house.

It is 2AM and all of a sudden you hear a string of “colorful” words coming from the bathroom.

A few moments later the lady of your life comes back (read stomping) into the room and you hear the words…. “put the freaking toilet seat down, I just fell in!”

You are half asleep when you hear this and you did the wrong thing and that was crack an ever-wee bit of a smile.

The next thing you know is that you are being bludgeoned by a pillow over and over again while more colorful words are being spewed at you as well as hearing the occasional words about toilets, seats and them being put in the down position.

She then crawls back into bed and you feel a hard tug of blankets leaving you only 6 inches or so of blankets.

Do you move to pull more back on to you?

Heck no, that is like inviting WW III to take pace at 2:05AM in your bedroom.

So, you lay there stiff as a board as sleep takes its way with you again, as parts of you freeze as you sleep; while at the same time your dreams are being bombarded by flying toilet seats dive bombing you.

Ask me how I know this?

Yep… you guessed it.

It is the small things in life that you start learning or re-learning as in my case when you have a special lady as a part of your life again.

It is all part of learning that life is a bit of compromise here and a bit of compromise there. Some things you win and some things you submit to and roll with it.

Like the silverware drawer.

Me, I think of functionality and having the silverware close to the table. That is because I am the one doing the cooking.

Where on the other I am not the one doing the dishes, so I do not think of where the silverware goes when one is cleaning up the kitchen.

So do I dig my heels in and say the drawer stays, or do I think about what it means to clean up the mess I made while cooking so that the lovely lady gets a break and makes things easier on her while she is cleaning up after the meal?

My advice…make things easier on the lovely lady doing the dishes. It makes life a little bit more pleasant and she feels more appreciated for letting her do things her way instead of sticking to the rut you have been living in.

It is a whole new adventure of living, toilet seats being down so you don’t hear the dog drinking out of the toilet in the middle of the night, or the lovely lady falling into the toilet at 2AM.

Take it from me, life is good when one thinks of these things.

Hey… I have requested that my towels are not messed with, so I guess it is only fair that the lovely lady asks that I keep the toilet seat down.

This way I avoid being bludgeoned by at pillow in the wee hours of the night.

Yep, you are living the Mhor Life when you make a small concerted efforts for the lovely lady in your life, like putting the toilet seat down so that she does not fall in at 2AM hour at night.



Stop Taking The Freaking Towels – Learning To Talk About The Little Things

The time has come and after running some numbers, looking at living situations, etc., my lovely lady and I have decided to merge homes which will help us both in a number of ways both emotionally and economically.

The interesting thing is sharing a home with someone new in your life. You relearn all those little things that get on your nerves as well as things that get in their nerves. Out of this come some form of compromise or sometimes not.

We have been learning this with towels.

Yeah, towels.

Being a foodie and cook most of my life, I like to run a tight kitchen with certain things having their place as well as tools for the trade.

One of those are kitchen / bar towels.

I have to admit that when I cook, I am a whirlwind in the kitchen cooking multiple things all at once and turning out an incredible meal where everything is nice a piping hot. Which is a hard thing to do without over cooking or under cooking the dish.

Because I am such a whirlwind in the kitchen, I tend to make a mess as well as wash my hands a lot. Because of that, I really dislike paper towels. When you wash and wipe up things as much as I do during the day, going through a roll a day gets expensive.

Thus, going to the white kitchen / bar towels that you can pick up at Sam’s at a great price.

Now the one thing I hate is having someone clean up or get in my way as I am cooking and then also take my towels because they might be wet or have a little bit of what ever from wiping up a quick mess.

Did I say how much I hate having my towels disappear on me while I am trying to do something in the kitchen?

Yeah… it really gets on my nerves.

Can you guess what my lovely lady likes to do right behind me while I am in the kitchen?

Yep, you guessed it… she takes my freaking towels thing they are dirty.


She also takes my towels in the bathroom…. Double Grrrrrrr.

This being a new relationship and we are getting used to living with each other, we have both vowed to let the other know when something is getting on their nerves.

Me, I am a pretty laid-back person but mess with my towels and well… I start getting a wee bit testy.

Instead of letting things boil over and keep pushing things down, what we have done is promise each other that we never go to bed angry or when we have something that is getting on our nerves.

I am not used to having this sort of relationship, you know; talking about things that bother us before it grows into a critical mass and we have a nuclear meltdown because my towel disappeared.

I must give my lovely lady total kudos because she does and incredible job of cleaning and organizing when I myself is a disorganized boob most days.

This is a great strength of hers and a major weakness in me. This one of those areas where we complement each other really well. I clean according to the 100,000 foot view and she cleans from the 6 inch view..

How did we solve this dilemma?

We created a rule…

#1 – Before we take it, make sure we replace it.

Now, together our house is nice to live in with everything in its place, including my towels.

This way if my lovely lady thinks my towel is skanky, she can get me a new one first before retiring the dirty one to the laundry heap.

This way when I am cooking or doing something in the kitchen, I always have a towel to dry off my hands or wipe up a minor mess.

So, what is the big take away in all this?

Talk about the little things in your life that may get under your skin right away or at least before you go to sleep at night. Always be honest and appreciate what your loving other is doing and find solutions that both of you can live with, thus making life not only good, but great together.

Oh in being wise in the way of towels, always replace it before you take it.

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